I got all dolled up tonight, getting ready to meet a type face designer, J.D. He seemed pretty great from his e-mails and deep, thought provoking discussions on the Christian faith. I learned, perhaps too deep.
I wore a cutesy, sleeveless black and cream striped dress with a black band on-top and a light touch of black beads at the neckline. My heels were black with a pleated toe. Feeling a little vulnerable, I grabbed my leather jacket.
I drove to meet him at Starbucks off Cedar Bluff Road in Knoxville. He also dressed up. Okay, he won some initial points. After small talk, he offered to buy me a coffee. It was 6 p.m., so I opted for a black and white hot chocolate. He ordered the same.
First thing I noticed, he didn't smile much. For a guy so devoted to the Lord, I thought he'd smile more. Nope.
He asked to sit outside. After some initial theological questions, he asked why I joined Match.com
I hadn't started dating until I was nearly 21. Before then, I was focused on the Lord and my studies and thought I wouldn't marry. I neglected to share my "man hater" phase "thanks to Grandma's advice.
I also said I knew I was ready, mature enough to start dating. The purpose I have in dating is to find the guy God wants me to be with.
Then he asked what I was looking for, that answer led to the discovery.
It was 7 p.m. and it felt like I was going to have a long recovery from this online adventure.
As it turns out, he believes "miracles" today are actually explainable through natural means. (Even though doctors and scientists can't explain it, at all). He thinks God magically stopped working miracles and stopped speaking to us after the Bible was written. I asked him if he had read in the Bible that God "stopped." He admitted he didn't have a complete understanding of that.
I said, well it's important to me, that my husband be able to pray for our the healing of our children... rather than a quick train to Heaven.
It was nice to have met him, get to know him a bit. I was even more glad he was up front! Some guys aren't good about that. I congratulated him on that.
Other than the healing, he was quite gnostic. I felt like a sinner for sipping my hot chocolate before he asked to pray.
We parted ways. I want a manly man. He wasn't that for me.
I'm off to Ben and Jerry's in Bearden. Holla.
